Repair attempts (pod-13)

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In this podcast episode, we discuss something known as a repair attempt. It’s a term coined by John Gottman. He is a psychologist who has done 40 years of research on relationships and marital stability and divorce prediction. This repair attempt thing relates to the way a couple tries to reconnect after a fight. If you want to get the most out of this episode, here is one way you can do it:

  1. Get in a good fight with your partner.
  2. Listen to this Neurotic Tornado repair attempt episode.
  3. Watch the Gottman video I reference in the podcast. Read up a little bit more on repair attempts.
  4. Try to make a repair attempt with your partner.
  5. When the repair attempt fails, just watch some sketch comedy as my wife and I did after our fight: Mr. Show; Key & Peele.
  6. Tell someone something cool you learned today.


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Marrying an Insecure Angsty Depressive (pod-12)

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In this podcast episode, I talk to my wife about what it is like to be married to an insecure, angst-ridden, depressed person. Is it as sexy as it sounds? I was particularly insecure and full of anxiety in the first few years of our relationship and we talk about how that impacted our relationship. Join us for this delightful romp!

By the way, my podcast name has changed to Neurotic Tornado. Sorry. Again. I just think this name more appropriately fits the content these days. You don’t have to do anything differently for this change to take effect (i.e. same feed), but just know that when you tell your depressed, angsty, insecure friends about this show, you should tell them to search for “Neurotic Tornado” in their podcast app instead of my previous failed podcast names.


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Marrying a Divorcée (pod-11)

In this podcast episode, the wife and I discuss the impact of us getting together later in life – as a couple and as parents. Join our aging bodies for this conversation…


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Our Couples Counselors (pod-10)

In this podcast episode, the wife and I take you on a tour of every one of our couples counselors. What could be more arousing than analyzing a whole bunch of analysts?


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Our Unromantic Romance (pod-09)

My wife and I recorded this podcast episode on Valentine’s Day after having NOT celebrated V-Day, so it seems fitting that we talk about how unromantic we are. Though we end up finding romance in our marriage in less typical places. I again try (and fail) to pick a fight with her. I again get us to talk about Buffy the Vampire Slayer, even when it is off topic. I again worry if you’re enjoying this ride with us.


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Our Dark Periods (pod-08)

In this episode, I talk to my wife about our “dark period.” Actually, she clarified for me that we have had several dark periods – these are periods in our marriage where we have really struggled to connect, nearly to the point of it all falling apart. Not only do we talk about our dark periods, but we talk about my obsession about talking about our dark periods. And we talk about my (previous) fear of having kids. What’s not to like?


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Never Good Enough (pod-07)

In this episode, I bully my wife onto the show. Listen to her talk about my various failings as a husband. Everything from my failures as a lawn mower-er to my inability to plan trips with the family to our combined attraction for Angel, the brooding vampire with a soul from Buffy the Vampire Slayer. What’s not to like?


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