In this podcast episode, Nikki, Ben, and Stevan start to define their relationship now that everything is out in the open. If you’re just tuning in, be sure to go back to episode 31 for the beginning of the season: It was a good marriage, but…
In this podcast episode, we go with Nikki, Ben, and Stevan to therapy. This is the first therapy session with all of them at the table together. Find out what happens!…
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Who wants to watch a ten-minute video about chronic pain and headaches!? Of course you do!
In this latest video, I walk you through the experience of having a nine-month headache… I’ve been a little bit obsessed with trying to think about (and talk about) the suffering associated with chronic pain. And so I made this delightful romp into my headache saga. I actually do intend it to be entertaining to watch, regardless of whether you can relate – at the very least, it’ll be easier to digest than a presidential debate.
This video will also be used as a quasi-valid excuse for why I haven’t responded much on social media, or gone to many social events, or been productive at my creative projects in 2015, or for how I failed in all the other ways. Enjoy!
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In this podcast episode, my wife and I discuss something known as a repair attempt. It’s a term coined by John Gottman. He is a psychologist who has done 40 years of research on relationships and marital stability and divorce prediction. This repair attempt thing relates to the way a couple tries to reconnect after a fight. If you want to get the most out of this episode, here is one way you can do it:
- Get in a good fight with your partner.
- Listen to this Neurotic Tornado repair attempt episode.
- Watch the Gottman video I reference in the podcast. Read up a little bit more on repair attempts.
- Try to make a repair attempt with your partner.
- When the repair attempt fails, just watch some sketch comedy as my wife and I did after our fight: Mr. Show; Key & Peele.
- Tell someone something cool you learned today.
In this podcast episode, I talk to my wife about what it is like to be married to an insecure, angst-ridden, depressed person. Is it as sexy as it sounds? I was particularly insecure and full of anxiety in the first few years of our relationship and we talk about how that impacted our relationship. Join us for this delightful romp!
By the way, my podcast name has changed to Neurotic Tornado. Sorry. Again. I just think this name more appropriately fits the content these days. You don’t have to do anything differently for this change to take effect (i.e. same feed), but just know that when you tell your depressed, angsty, insecure friends about this show, you should tell them to search for “Neurotic Tornado” in their podcast app instead of my previous failed podcast names.
In this podcast episode, the wife and I take you on a tour of every one of our couples counselors. What could be more arousing than analyzing a whole bunch of analysts?
In this episode, I talk to my wife about our “dark period.” Actually, she clarified for me that we have had several dark periods – these are periods in our marriage where we have really struggled to connect, nearly to the point of it all falling apart. Not only do we talk about our dark periods, but we talk about my obsession about talking about our dark periods. And we talk about my (previous) fear of having kids. What’s not to like?
In this podcast episode, I get to talk to my good friend Kristen Forbes about writing well-crafted pieces that cover emotionally raw material. I really enjoyed speaking with her, and other than the number of times I stupidly say, “Wow!”, I’m pretty pleased with how this conversation turned out. Check out the first two links below to read the two main essays that we reference in the discussion. Also, I’m still working out minor audio issues… bear with me… Please?
- I Have An Eating Disorder And No One In My Life Knows by Kristen Forbes
- Dream Girl by Kristen Forbes
- Quote from Sy Safransky that Kristen references 52 minutes into podcast: “I’m looking for a writer who doesn’t know where the sentence is leading her; a writer who starts with her obsessions and whose heart is bursting with love; a writer sly enough to give the slip to her secret police, the ones with the power to accuse and condemn in the blink of an eye. It’s all right that she doesn’t know what she’s thinking until she writes it, as if the words already exist somewhere and draw her to them. She may not know how she got there, but she knows when she’s arrived.”
- Amy Butcher: Sick, I Was Always Pushing
- Chad Simpson: Tell Everyone I Said Hi
- Cheryl Strayed
- Elissa Bassist
- And this essay: Why It’s Not OK To Trash-Talk My Ex-Boyfriend
- Kristen Forbes: her blog identity and her Twitter identity